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Moms Talk: Sex Scandals

We ask our Sherman Oaks Moms Council about recent incidents involving prominent men caught up in situations relating to sex.

Each week we ask our Sherman Oaks Moms Council questions about parenting. This week, for a change of pace, we'd like to get our moms' opinions on the recent incidents involving powerful political figures linked to sex.

All of them involve married men. Dominique Strauss-Kahn and John Edwards are embroiled in court cases. New York Congressman Anthony Weiner is in hot water, although not accused of breaking any laws. And Arnold Schwarzenegger's situation is simply an embarrassment to all involved.

My question to the Sherman Oaks Moms, who are all married women, is this: Do you think that the prominence of the men played a role in these incidents? My own view is that sometimes people in positions of power think they are bulletproof, that they can get away with anything.

What's your view? Feel free to respond and tell us your views in the comments section of this site.

Rose Sevilla June 09, 2011 at 08:00 AM
To answer the question directly: No, I do not believe that the prominence of these men plays a role, but rather, their prominence is what leads us to find out about these very private matters. Infidelity (quite unfortunately) occurs in relationships regardless of the individuals' statuses. Although we hear about licentious behavior on the part of prominent male politicians all-too often, we must remember that the ratio of men to women in Congress is quite large (I believe women make up less than 20%), and I do believe that it's only a matter of time before a female politician has her dirty laundry aired out. Perhaps it's because I have 3 boys that I'm uber-sensitive to any form of generalization against men, but we really ought to keep in mind that in many of these cases, the women were also cheating on their own spouses and are just as guilty. Countless successful men and women, along with average Joes and Janes, are unfaithful. Though often men and women have different reasons for cheating (whether it be a power trip, an adventure, or simply a respite from boredom), when it comes down to it, the reality is that many people engage in behavior which totally contradicts and betrays the very sacred vows of marriage. It has happened throughout history, it happens daily, and it is unfortunate that the experiences of some involved parties are compounded by humiliating public scrutiny of their families.
Rose Sevilla June 09, 2011 at 08:16 AM
Addendum: To clarify, when I wrote that "the women were also cheating on their own spouses", I was referring to the women who partook in the affairs (e.g., the maid involved with the former Governor), NOT the wives of the cheating politicians. Hope that makes more sense. I do not feel bad for the guilty parties, but am so sympathetic towards the women who not only have to endure this, but must do so while it becomes fodder for comedians.
Randi Green June 10, 2011 at 01:53 AM
I agree with Rose in that the prominence of these men is not the main reason that they've cheated, although they certainly put themselves in the spotlight by doing so while they held the positions that they did. As Rose said, there are many reasons why people cheat and believing that they're powerful enough not to be affected might be one of them. Athletes, politicians, celebrities, we've all heard the stories. However, the same infidelities are occuring in our neighborhoods, amongst the "ordinary" people. Recent studies have put the statistics at 50 -60 percent of men and 45 -55 percent of women as those who've had affairs. I think that the idea of committment and vows of marriage aren't taken very seriously these days, due to a myriad of reason, including, but certainly not limited to societal acceptance and the women's movement.
Rose Sevilla June 10, 2011 at 02:13 AM
Wow, those findings about infidelity rates are quite high. I had no idea. Fully agree with you on vows being taken lightly, and that the acceptance of divorce as something other than a last resort might account for the demise of many marriages. How so on the women's movement?

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