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Are Dads Being Discriminated Against?

We'd like to hear your opinion on this week's Moms Talk issue. Feel free to tell us what you think in the comments section of this site.

Our Moms Talk question this week actually involves dads. Here is the issue posed by Rose Sevilla:

My friend’s husband recently voiced his anger about the lack of changing tables in men’s rooms, which led us to a discussion about ways in which male parents are discriminated against in our society. For example, it seems appropriate for a mother to take her child (son or daughter) into a public restroom, but what happens when a father takes his daughter into the ladies' room? Or the men’s room?  In an age when both parents are taking active roles in their child’s upbringing, how can we ensure that dads don’t get left out of the deal?

Our Moms Council members are Linda Arbiter, Michele Dahl, Randi Greene and Rose Sevilla. All of these women are mothers of varying degrees of experience.

We invite anyone to answer today's question posed by Rose: Are men being discriminated against?

Brandon John December 14, 2012 at 08:59 PM
Jbrandonsd I'm a single father, and yes California has a total bias against fathers. I have heard things such as, because she is the mother as an excuse to allow my ex to lie in court, to mentally abuse our children, the threaten them, make false allegations against me, to submit falsified documents to court, my ex has even impersonated a CPS supervisor, and the courts have not once held her in contempt or held her responsible for any of her wrong doings. I have spent over 55k in lawyers fee's, been to court 64 times in the past 7 and a half years. We have had several different lawyers over the years that have been assigned by the courts for our daughters, and all of them heavily favor the mother. One lawyer never even interviewed the children and my oldest daughter was so upset that she actually demanded to speak with the judge about her own concerns. Both children spoke to the judge alone in private, I later found out that the children had expressed major concerns of the mother drinking and driving and also doing drugs in the present of the girls and while driving the girls, and the court barely warned the mother. I had full custody until a few months ago when my oldest decided to hide behind her mother after getting caught doing something wrong, and the courts are allowing her to hid behind the mother to avoid being grounded. Now that my ex has my daughters, the courts are heavily favoring her more so then even and show no concern for the real safety of my daughters.
Brandon John December 14, 2012 at 09:10 PM
As a father who has been discriminated against in the California family courts, being a single dad, I understand the exhausting, expensive uphill battles of being a single father that actually wants to raise his children. Here is something I thought funny, during one of my court hearings, a CPS personal actually provided a study done by CPS regarding single parents and how their children turn out, and it shows that in 90% of all cases where the father raises the children as a single father that the children do much better in school, have more friends, go farther in education beyond high school, have better jobs, longer lasting/happier relationships then if they are raised by a single mother, and also the same article showed that most of our federal prisons are filled with those raised by single mothers, and that single mothers seem to raise children that grow up with lower self esteem, less education, higher chances of criminal behavior leading to imprisonment, more disruptive and violent behavior with society, relationships and family. Shortly after reading these findings to the courts, the CPS agent then said, the mother should have more time with the children because she is their mom. So, even with there own proof, the courts, cps and all government agencies will always discriminate against men. The only way to fix this is to fire every judge and only allow a judge to be commissioned if they pass a panel consisting of equal representatives of fathers and mothers.
Brandon John December 14, 2012 at 09:54 PM
Hey Bob, I would jump on that lawsuit against the system. My ex has been out of hand since I divorced her, she has sent CPS and police to my home several times, she called the police to my house claiming i was killing them all because I would not wake up my daughters at midnight to talk to her on the phone, and this was a school night, so at 1am, I had police nearly breaking every window, slamming in my door and causing me to be evicted from the property for ongoing police activity, and yet the courts, police, the system say she has done nothing wrong, meanwhile, the fact is if I did any one of the things she has done they would of locked me up and thrown away the key, their is no equality for single fathers at all in America. A sad fact, if you look at the three high profile cases where the mothers tried to take the lives of their children, in all three cases the fathers where trying to obtain full custody, the mothers where constantly disobeying direct orders from the judges and the system favored the mothers, the system has never shown true care for the safety and well being of any child, they only care to give the children to moms, regardless of what harm may come of it. I AM WITH YOU COMPLETELY, LETS START A CLASS ACTION LAWSUIT AGAINST FAMILY COURT, CPS AND ALL GOVERNMENT AGENCIES THAT SHOW ANY DISCRIMINATION TOWARDS FATHERS.
scott December 14, 2012 at 11:00 PM
here is an article,I couldn't get the link " Silent Discrimination; Single Father Families".Read the article we don't have a support system in court or in our churches. i do believe dads are discriminated against...single dads that is. I am actually impressed with the amount of dressing tables in men's rooms.20 yrs ago there ere none and I wondered why then. I know the courts do because I have seen it 1st hand .My ex-wife got away easy with child support , courts and judges are weak. The worst offenders sadly are the Evangelical church.I attended one in NJ for 7 yrs and sadly it was horrible the way the men treated me.The new younger pastor was very discriminatory. I believe it was because he and the other men were threatened by me as a single man. The fundamental Baptist or Christian view of wifey submission seems to go along well until a single guy with 2 little children walks in than thay get nasty. They tried to jeopardize jobs, my home, they stalked me, entered my home when I was out and my kids were alone...borderline criminal if you ask me. Two yrs before this young guy got there a much older man pastored and I never felt that so you see I can compare it to something elses is true I also attended a church in nj. they get jealous and threatened. they better change because single father homes are up 62% in the last 10 yrs. thanks all, scott schmidl
scott December 14, 2012 at 11:12 PM
here is an article,I couldn't get the link " Silent Discrimination; Single Father Families".Read the article we don't have a support system in court or in our churches. i do believe dads are discriminated against, single dads that is. the courts discriminate too, my ex-wife got away easy with child support. courts and judges are weak and are afraid to rule as strongly in a dad's favor like they would a woman. they think we aren't in the same boat as mom's with custody. They ask why don't you work? answer..." no child care" same struggles and bosses are worse. they see a man but don't see the children. The worst offenders is the Evangelical church. I attended one in NJ for 7 yrs and sadly it was horrible the way the men treated me.The new younger pastor was very discriminatory. I believe it was because he and the other men were threatened by me as a single man. The fundamental Baptist or Christian view of wifey submission seems to go along well until a single guy with 2 little children walks in than they get nasty. They tried to jeopardize jobs, my home, they stalked me, entered my home when I was out and my kids were alone...borderline criminal. before this young pastor got there a much older man pastored and I never felt this way with him so you see I can compare it to something else. they get jealous and threatened. they better change because single father homes are up 62% in the last 10 yrs. thanks all, scott schmidl

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